Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Pavel Durov – these names have already entered the history of mankind. What drives them – “naked” altruism or healthy egoism? Which of these qualities actually help standard scenarios and make revolutionary discoveries?
Being egoist is bad! Is it not for this that parents and school have taught us since childhood? There is an opinion in Russian society that selfish are closed people who put their own interests in first place and die in complete solitude.
Neither parents nor teachers were right. Just the world has changed since then. Previously, to succeed, it was necessary to become a screw in the system. Now – to be a selfish. In the XXI century, a healthy egoism became naturally self -realization.
Egoist is a person who acts primarily based on his own priorities, and then thinks about others. If a person puts in place exclusively other people’s interests, then he is a priori will never be happy.
Selfishness is conscious, that is, satisfied, and unconscious – supplanted. Conscious selfishness is when Elon Musk is going to create a colony on Mars at the call of the soul, inviting those who want to participate in his project with attention or money. That is, a person realizes his dream at the expense of his own means, without encroaching on freedom, borders, finances of other people. This is healthy egoism.
Unconscious egoism – when a person is supposedly (!) acts and lives for the sake of others … but does it exclusively from selfish “surviving” motives – he just waits for him to be loved, approved, praised.
By virtue of built -in negative beliefs and inability to get rid of them, he is forced to half his life, and sometimes all to the end, go not his own way, think not his thoughts, but to adapt, calibrate and survive. This can be called unhealthy egoism.
Unlike an unconscious, conscious egoist speaks specifically and acts directly and logically. If it gives a gift, then in order to enjoy the reaction yourself. If he comes to the matinee to the child, then to experience pride, and not because it is “accepted and correctly”, and not because he is a “good” friend, son, partner or father.
A healthy egoist consumes energy for his own business, desires, dreams and crazy projects. The rest of the burning of their “fuel” to maintain the image of a “good” person. For the first security is to be yourself and do what he wants, for all others – to adapt, tolerate and do what is expected from them.
Both of these polar strategies, like many others, are laid in the consciousness of man in the first years of life. Until
six years old, the child simply does not have critical thinking. Everything that he hears in his address, all his parents’ reactions to stress and difficulties, everyday situations and joyful events are imprinted in his mind, like a map. The arrow of its “navigator” will move along it at a conscious age.
In some situations, the Mom’s voice will be “news”: “You cannot do it that you imagined about yourself?”, In others – dads:” Do not stick out, quietly, do not bother!”
Psycho -trauma to the child also cause a direct emotional impact on the part of the authoritative figure, and due to when the baby is brought up by immature emotionally and psychologically by parents, for whom the world is full of threats. They themselves are afraid and pronounce their fears in his presence.
Such children, whom the majority, grow up in comfortable people and form a good society: work hard, do not ask for a lot, are happy to praise.
However, there are others. Thanks to their revolutionary discoveries, today we have the opportunity to instantly contact any person on the back of the globe, correspond in social networks, use smartphones and convenient applications. We ride stylish electric cars and are about to witness the colonization of earthlings of Mars, for which I need to say thanks to the healthy egoism of the inventors.