I told him how uncomfortable it was for me to be in the home surrounded by her belongings. I didn’t say anything immediately but after a few days of struggling with this I told him again how confusing an hurtful this was to me. Now mind you, he and I both by this time had told one another that we loved each other. We both told one another that we were in this 100% and were committed to us and the relationship we started.

I totally agree with you but want to add that it is also easier if both partners have had a deep long lasting love . I feel like I know his wife even though she pased sevwral years before we met. Our biggest obstacle is He is 81 and I am 65 but he is in excellent health and loves adventures and traveling as much if not more than me. We are trying not to rush but sees time slipping thru our fingers. Thank you for your passion of helping us Women who so often settle for less. I’m the one who’s been seeing a widower for now 5 years.

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I packed her things away, all of it. I knew that if I didn’t find a way above the waves I was most certainly going to drown in grief. So what does a father and devoted husband do in that TransSingle situation? There’s nothing that prepares any of us for it, and frankly no book or therapist after the fact made a difference either. He is obviously not ready but neither are you.

He hardly read at all; spending all free time on Faceplant and was not interested in learning new things. I’m pretty much the opposite though all these rship blogs keep telling me to date outside my comfort zone. From now on, if I ever date again, it will ONLY be with those sharing my values and who are equals; no exceptions. I retired prematurely, am moving to my 100 yo farm, sans all utilities, and living according to MY values. I may be alone for the rest of my life but at least it’ll be in an intact ecosystem. We also have our rednecks, our damaged, unhealthy men, but there’s a good many trees between me and them.

I was at the time 2 years out of a failed relationship of 4 years; one who was unfaithful so I had been dealing with somewhat of a loss myself and dealing with hurt and trust issues. We met and things went wonderfully. We reminisced about our younger days and how our paths had crossed over the years. We spent 5 hours together that evening and he immediately asked to see me again the next evening. He’s a drummer in a band and asked me to come to his show that 2nd night but I declined. Although I wanted to see him, I wasn’t ready to meet his band family but it didn’t take long before we were together every evening and weekend.

I just don’t know how to approach these concerns of his without sounding defensive. He is a very special man, and I feel really good when I am with him, but I cannot change myself for him. If I choose to lose weight it will be for me, just like the weight I lost prior to meeting him was for me. I have never wanted to be with anyone as much as I have wanted to be with him. Being with him feels natural, I don’t have to pretend to be something I am not.

Every person that lived and was loved deserves to not be forgotten. If someone bakes a million cakes on a loved ones birthday, who are you to judge? I would say that doesn’t make them not ready to love again, it is the type of person that knows how to love and keep their loved ones memory alive.

I’m devastated that this happened and he has shown remorse but doesn’t regret anything. All I did was love them both and it’s been thrown in my face. At Christmas he gave his daughter a card signed from mum and dad. I turned up on Christmas night to see photos all over the hall. He said this was because family were round the previous day. Keep creating your own love with him.

I think your advice is beyond ineffective, it’s ignorant. Until your spouse dies , consider keeping your useless opinions to yourself. I am also widowed after 40+ years of marriage. He had lost his wife that August after 50 years of marriage. By the 2nd date, we knew what we had together.

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I will always love my husband and I will not apologize for that. I don’t ever want to stop loving him and that by the way… Makes me an excellent catch because I know what it’s like to love and be in a happy marriage. I am not an angry, bitter woman who is jaded by men.

He told me in month 2 that she sent me to replace herself. He had a bad marriage to a different women twice where she divorced him both times.Him & gf did alot 2gether we only did what he wants & now he just wants to be friends. He always talk abt both the ex wife & deceased gf. When I started asking about me fitting in since he says he loves me?

He has a photo of her in the living room and one at his office and i am ok with that. We do speak about her as he is of the opinion that if we dont keep a persons memory alive, we might forget them. I am ok with that as they share a son together and many happy years of marriage.

The natural extension, of course, is online dating. And more now than ever before, Maharashtra men and women are using the internet to find romance. Many Indian singles tend to exaggerate or out right lie about their looks, their age and their professions. Still, you can find romance if you look in the right places. It’s easy to separate the bad eggs from the good ones and find your one true love.