The exciting thing here is that they pretty much apply to both men and women. It had a few good point, and a few that I don’t agree with it. You do have to take care of yourself, but I feel that this book tells men that it’s OK to be selfish and put yourself first. Yes, you could show someone the door, but he’s the one who has to walk through it; and he’s unlikely to do so until it’s his last option.

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Dr. Robert Glover – Dating Essentials for Men: Perfecting Your Practice

Dr Robert Glover’s work on his discovery of No More Mr Nice Guy Syndrome is ground breaking. “Your mind has been telling you unsubstantiated lies about yourself, women, and the world for most of your life.” • Send text messages that create instant attraction and arousal.

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Glover goes into a lot of detail about this, but two of the most important traits of Nice Guys is that they seek to win the approval of others by anticipating their needs, and they try to minimize or deny their own needs. Glover traces this first problem to a generation of men raised almost exclusively by women. After the 50s, fathers spent much more time away from home, working, and the home became the domain of the woman. Teachers in recent years have been almost exclusively female. Thus, a generation has grown up with no significant male role models and a strong disposition to winning the approval of female authority figures. Women raised these men, so you’d think they would be great with women, and women often describe Nice Guys as “a real catch for some lucky woman.” Turns out, however, that women don’t actually like men who constantly try to please them.

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Many of his clients noticed his dating success and begged him to teach them what he was doing. Dating Essentials for Men arose from those requests. Dr. Glover has since taught thousands of men just like you how to interact confidently with women – get numbers, get laid, get amazing girlfriends, and create great relationships. Many of My clients noticed my dating success and begged me to teach them what I was doing.Dating Essentials for Menarose from those requests.

They also match up well with any dysfunctions Nice Guys have. Fortunately, RWWs can be easily identified and avoided. If you have been down this road before, you know what this approach leads to—getting stuck with a woman who disappoints you and/or drives you crazy. Even if the relationship starts going south, he does everything he can to keep it together because he doesn’t want to be lonely again and start over dating. If she is willing, they typically start having sex after just a few dates. “No More Mr. Nice Guy is hands down THE best book I have ever read! NMMNG explained every bad belief and bad habit I didn’t even know I had! I thank God everyday I found this book.”

He is an easy target for jokes because he smiles and takes it, never thinking of defending himself because he is afraid of conflict, thinking that if he just plays along, he will be liked. There is nothing in that advice that applies only to humans gendered as male. Neither is there when Glover points out it’s important to have strong friendships outside of a relationship.

This willingness to give the woman all the power does not make a woman feel secure in her relationship. The stories of men’s trials, tribulations, and triumphs truly is inspiring. We read of men who are so paralyzed by their fear of abandonment that they let their wives walk all over them. When they start standing up for themselves, setting boundaries, their wives initially balk, but suddenly find themselves for assured of their husband’s love, more respectful, and more attracted to him. They appreciate the relationship more and find it gives them greater value as well. Because yes, you should act with honesty and integrity and set clear boundaries and learn to recognize that you can’t read minds or predict what people really want.

In every facet of their life, the same method is employed, and the conclusion reached; to suck up, and then believe that everything is your fault when this does not work. In this way, the ‘Nice Guy’ is only superficially nice, using his favors and pleasantness as currency for his own selfish ends. The book is littered with examples of people who are ‘stuck’ at an undesirable job, in broken or otherwise dysfunctional relationships, or even from pursuing the life that they desire in general. I highly recommend this book to anyone, male or female, who wants to understand either the dynamics of male self-empowerment, or the ways men and women interact and fill unique roles in a relationship. If you know a Nice Guy who can’t understand why he never gets what he wants in life even though he tries so hard, please, please save him the agony and get him this book. This goes into a lot of the psychology of attraction and male-female interactions, but the point of the book is often that women want to be with a man, not some male-shaped stand-in who lets her call all the shots.

This was a must read for me and made me realize the struggles and ordeals a “Mr. Nice Guy” goes through in all phases of his life. This book resonated with me because I was a Nice Guy throughout my high school years and early college life. I didn’t understand back then why I was getting rejected by women, why I was settling making friends with people I didn’t like, and why I felt afraid to get into arguments with my family.

Finding good information on this topic is a challenge outside of written books. The section on “The Paradigm Effect” and how it relates to dating has great merit. This is how you seek information to support your self-limiting beliefs and ignore or minimize information playdate that contradicts those beliefs—shifting the Paradigm where you learn how to choose a woman who chooses you. I myself am still coming to grips with this vision of manhood, but so far, it has proven to be a truly liberating and empowering experience.

I have since taught thousands of men just like you how to interact confidently with women – get numbers, get laid, get amazing girlfriends, and create great relationships. The knowledge I gleaned from this book I wish I had known as a teenager it would have saved me a lot of grief. Many of My clients noticed my dating success and begged me to teach them what I was doing. Dating Essentials for Menarose from those requests.

I couldn’t understand why everyone didn’t have a similar personal mantra. I came to this book after my wife asked me what my real goal in life was in the next couple of decades prior to retirement. I couldn’t say, and couldn’t even dredge up a dream that I thought was possible. It occurred to me that there was something wrong with that. I got about 100 pages in and realized I was only halfway through and decided it wasn’t worth the time to finish.